How do I love her?

I really think that this blog corresponds directly with Kim’s Blog. I begin today’s post with a passage from Ephesians:

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.” – Eph. 5:22-24

I begin with this because many people know it, and men have used this passage for centuries in order to lord over their wives in every way.  I am not in any way insinuating that this is not the way God intended it to be.  I think that this is the perfectly ordained order that God would have.  Wives should submit under the leadership of their husbands as equals in essence, but different in substance.  This is the way that God created it to be. However, many people, women included have an improper view of what this means.  I think that for too long people have laughed their way through the discussion of these three verses.  It think that the problem lies in the fact that people do not continue to read past verse 24.  Beginning in verse 25 we find:

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor , without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.” – Eph. 5:25-27

Yes the wife is to submit herself under the leadership of her husband, but the husband in turn is to love her with a Christ-like love.  This does not mean that he laughs about the fact that she is to be made subject to him or that he treats her as if she is a slave to do anything for him.  I just think that it is time that men quit laughing their way through discussions about their wives’ submission.  Although the wife is submitting, the husband must love her in return the same way that Christ loves the church.  This really puts a huge amount of responsibility on the husband.

I guess what I am trying to say is that it is time for men, Christian men, to stop treating women as if they are inferior in every way.  Men and women are equal.  God has simply placed men in the position of leadership in the family.

I would love to know what people think about this subject.  Please comment and let me know.

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  1. I totally agree! men and women are equal but they have to be able to submit to each other in a marriage. I have a plan to treat my future husband like a king cause I’m the queen in my Gods eyes. So what i’m saying is if people submit to each other as friends we shouldn’t have a problem submitting to each other as men or woman in a marriage. Men are kings in families women are queens in a marriage. .

    be blessed
    womenofworship.com

  2. I think most people don’t gi ve this passage much though. In general my point is don’t make a mockery of the rolesand that if a woman is so submit she needs to have a husband who is willing to man up and lead. Have an opinion and wear the pants but don’t treat her like she’s stupid orworthless and women respect his direction. If he says you are over committing yourself or the kids fix it. Okay I’m done


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